DRAGGED to OLD FOLKS HOMES




1.      DAY by day, the number of parents who are neglected and sent to old folks homes is on the rise.

2.      Many working children today are busy, and some of them tend to prioritise and focus on their own family matters most of the time.

3.      They fail to see their parents as their family member but as a third party in many situations.

4.      Taking care and giving primary care to their parents are becoming a burden to these working families nowadays. Some even complain that they are not able to manage the cost incurred in taking care of their father or mother and it is cheaper to send them to old folks homes.

5.      A friend of mine sent his parent to a nursing home with the excuse that there is no place in his house but has built a special room for his two dogs.

6.      Based on feedback from a few old folks homes, in most cases, children fail to visit their parents upon placing them in these homes. They just pay the monthly fee to these homes.

7.      Recently, I encountered a family of six siblings who neglected their 82-year-old mother and sent her to an old folks home. None of them wanted to take care of their ailing mother. She was sent to an old folks home where she died within two months from infection.

8.      I was informed by one of their family members that the mother had begged her children not to send her to the old folks home but her pleas fell on deaf ears.

9.      I attended the funeral and was dumbfounded to see that none of his children were in sorrow or guilt. Instead they were busy talking about one of their children’s birthday party scheduled in the near future.



10.   This is the society we have today, where they live without care, love and compassion for parents. They live a life full of selfishness.

11.  The example I gave is just a tip of an iceberg as there are thousands of neglected people in various old folks homes and even streets.

12.   People fail to see that what they are doing to their parents is witnessed by their own children. Children observe everything that their parents do.


13.   If you neglect and send your father or mother to an old folks home today, your children will not hesitate to send you to the same place when you are old and weak. That’s why we say life is a cycle.

14.  Always recall your past when your parents did the best they could to raise you and give you happiness when you were in their care.

Written by Vigneswaran Kannan for The NST, Date: 13 Aug, 2014

Comments

  1. UnknownApril 1, 2019 at 1:57 PM

    An interesting Article and thought provoking.

    I am single lady and having a thought of who will take care of me when I dont function. As I read your article I am reminding myself to keep some saving for my retirement home. This is reality. The inflation is rising. Goverment working to shift Msia toward developed nation. We must work or be self employed. Again...not a good reason to neglect our old folks.

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